Start overs

Start overs I hear they are possible but can it be done? My friend has decided to start over with her life. She is now in a school with dorms and learning to become a nurse. I'm glad for her because she needed a start over. So I guess it is possible but you have to be willing to start over. Meaning you have to be able to decide either or not if you want to start over on something in your life. I have always wondered how it would feel to have that option of starting over. I guess I realized that when I met my boyfriend who I have been dating for 11 months. I have come to realize that I can start over with my love life. He has taught me that it is possible to start over with love. I often wondered what people want to start over with. Is it love? Work? What is it that makes people want to start over? I guess the only person that knows that is that person. I have read books where they teach you how to start over but can it happen? I guess it can. What do you think. Can you learn how to start over? And how long will it take you to start over again? I would love to learn how but I think it is possible to make that change on your own. Sure you can ask for help but at the end of the day can a book help you learn how to start over.

Challenge of the day: Make a list of things that you want to fix or start over on and see what happens when you do
Question of the day: Is it possible to start over on love?

How to love yourself

Loving yourself can sound weird but some how it can be possible. I have a hard time doing this because when I look at  myself in a mirror I don't see a pretty person. But it helps when you have some one who cares about your feelings. I am trying to tell myself that I do have worth. How can you do the same? Well it's easy. In my last blog I wrote down steps for you all to try and I will tell you to stick with it. So here are some more steps that you can try.

1) Tell yourself every day that you have worth
2) Don't give up on yourself or life
3) Go on a vacation just by yourself and have fun with it
4) Don't call yourself bad names
5) Always look at yourself in a good way

Now I know that these sound stupid but some how I think these might work. You just have to work on them everyday. It will be hard trust me I know but you can do it. I am still working on this and it can be hard because you will have days were you will feel bad about the way you look and then there will be days where you feel great. I'm trying to have more days that are great and that is the key to all of this. Have more great days. I hope that when you try to follow these steps you will see how much of a difference it will make.

Challenge of the day: Tell yourself that you can make yet another difference
Question of the day: How will you change the world?

Communication

I have found that in most relationships communication is or was never there in the beginning of said relationship. I think it is very important to have communication in a relationship because both of you need to be able to talk about things that are bothering you. It is or can be bad for the both of you in the end. Not all relationships are going to start out perfect. Sure some of them do but in the end something happens and it gets broken. If couples took the time to fix their relationships in a good way cheating and all this other stuff wouldn't be happening. It's all about trust and communication. My boyfriend and I have both decided that we need to talk about what is bothering us. Sure I'm the one doing most of the talking because his ex never did any of this with him. I'm trying to show him that it's OK to talk about what is on your mind. Sure he and I have our ups and downs what couple doesn't but he and I are getting to the point where we are losing that communication and we might get a workbook that will help us out with our relationship. He and I have tried everything but we keep forgetting the most important thing. Communication. Like my grandmother says if you don't use it you lose it. And that is so true. He and I aren't perfect but we are trying to fix it as a team. Sure you could go see a couple's counselor but that would cost a lot of money. Here are some easy steps for you and your partner.

1) Talk about your feelings when you are upset
2) Listen to what the other person has to say before you interrupt.
3) Talk don't yell
4) Go into separate rooms then come out and talk it out.
5)Never go to bed angry
6) Be loving to the other person
and the last one is.......
7) ALWAYS SAY YOUR SORRY!!!

I hope these help all of you out.

Challenge of the day: Find a workbook that the two of you can do and stick to it.
Question of the day: How important is communication to you?

Taking care of one's self

I have found that if you take care of yourself you will feel better about yourself. I have been trying to take care of myself by washing my face and making sure that my skin is healthy as well. I know its not easy to  do that all the time but I'm trying to make sure that I'm some what healthy. I used to look in the mirror and tell myself that I look horrible and I would always put myself down. And that wasn't good no one should do that to themselves. I have found that if you keep telling yourself you can do it then you will find more confidence. And that is the key to being happy and taking care of yourself. All you have to do is make a list of words that mean something to you and print them. The next step is to put that list some where, where you can see it every morning and repeat those words to yourself. Then you will start to believe them and you will feel better. That was one way another way is to go out after work every night and walk around the block and you will feel some what better with that. But the thing with that is you have to do it every night. Drink more water! Write down steps that are easy for you to do and then just do them. I have a list and I will share it with you.

1) Tell myself that I am pretty
2) Write in my journal every night
3) Talk about what I'm feeling with my boyfriend
4)  Eat more healthy foods (or at least try to)
5) Take better care of my skin

Well that's my list. I might add more. If you make a list then you can take one more step into taking care of yourself. Not every one takes good care of themselves.

Challenge of the day: Make a list of things you can do to take better care of yourself and make a list of words that mean something to you.
Question of the day: Do you think it's important to take care of yourself?

What in the world?!

We all  have those moments where you say to ourselves what in the world. Well I can tell you I have had a moment like that. You see a friend of mine was going through a rough time with her ex. Well what happened was they broke up and then started going back out. The reason why they broke up in the first place was because he cheated on her. Now you would think that would be a good reason to stay away from him right? WRONG!!!!! Anyway they started going back out. And once again there were problems from the start. They would always fight over the dumbest thing ever. So the breaking point was when she shared a photo of him over Facebook. Well he didn't like that at all. So he got mad at her and started cursing her out over Facebook. Well she didn't like that. Sadly I was the one she called and she told me about it. Well you would think if some one told you not to call them for a week you would do it because you don't know if they are joking or not. Well that happened as well. Now they aren't speaking and neither are the other two people she was friends with. So basically four people aren't speaking to each other. This is what I told a friend of mine to tell my friend April's ex. "Grow up act like an adult. Facebook should never be used to start or end a fight. What happens between the two of you should stay that way. Never bring other people into it." I said some other things but I can't remember. Now if you are like me you would say the same thing. So I told April the same thing and she wasn't happy about it. So I told her that's how my boyfriend and I feel about all of this. Anyway needless to stay she might be mad at me. Do I care? Not really because I'm trying to take care of myself and I'm trying to help my family and the same thing goes for my boyfriend. Now what would you have done in this situation? You probably would have done the same thing. So thank you all for being so understanding to this story.

Challenge of the day: Was there a time when you had to stop something bad from happening?
Question of the day: If you could end a fight right now how would you handle it like an adult?

Pictures

Like the saying goes a picture is worth a thousand words. And that is true but a picture can also bring some good and some bad memories to it. I had photos of my ex from high school and I threw them out because I didn't want to be reminded of the pain I went through with him. But at the same time I have photos of when I was growing up. I look at those and I see happy times. Each photo is worth something. I know there are some of you who look at a photo and say "what was I thinking wearing that?" Trust me I have thought the same thing. I will look at a photo of myself and go what was I thinking or I look fat. Each person says that all the time. But when we show other people they tell us how we look good in that photo. I think it is important to remember that when we take that photo that same photo is telling us how much we had at the time when it was taken. So really we shouldn't have to be concerned how we looked at the time. When we look at a family photo we see how much we have changed over the years. I think it is important to have a family photo taken because you will want to be able to look back on that photo and see how much your kids have grown. I'm still hoping that my boyfriend's family gets a new family photo taken because I know I will be apart of that special day. I think photos should be kept as a reminder that life is some thing to remember people by. Because you never know when you might want to take a walk down memory lane.

Challenge of the day: Gather as many photos as you can and put them all on a poster board and laminate it. As a reminder of life.

Question of the day: What moment in life would you capture with a camera?

Music

Music has a way to make people feel good about their day. I started listening to classic rock when I was in middle school and to this day I still listen to it. I am 23 years old and I have seen Styx twice, REO Speedwagon twice, Night Ranger twice, Foreigner, and Journey. And my list is growing still. I think people who listen to music have a huge list of favorite songs that they like. I think I have two page list of favorite songs. Every time I hear a song that i like I have to sing along with it. Like right now I'm singing to a song that I like. I think music is the key to life. If every one just took the time to listen to their favorite songs then they will have a good day. This morning I listened to The Who Baba O'Riley and I felt better the rest of the morning. Music makes the difference in lives. If there were no sad songs then people wouldn't be able to cry to them. If there were no love songs when what would couples slow dance too? Music is the bridge that brings people together. We all need to take time to listen to our own play list every day. On the way home from any where and away from home. When I listen to my favorite song I jump on my bed and dance to it until the song is over. Then I feel so much better about day. I think even the bad singers should sing along with their favorite songs. I think it is so amazing how a song can make some one feel bad or better about something. I love music. It has such a presence in life. I want to dance the night away to my favorite song until I can't dance any more. I bet it does the same for you.

Challenge of the day: Listen to your favorite songs and dance to them for no reason
Question of the day: What is your favorite song and why?