Finding peace

Finding peace within one's life is not an easy task to accomplish. You have to be able to look at yourself and see what you want to change for the better. For me it's telling a guy that I am happily dating someone and no you can't have my number. Or telling a guy friend no you can't come over. I think finding peace with your past is also important because there are people who still hold on to it. And I am one of them. My boyfriend has told me to let it go and live for now. Well that theory is easy to do if you know how. I have tried to let go and not look back but it's not easy. Are there people out there with the same problem as me? I'm sure there is. But when do we say enough is enough? When do we say I will never look back again? Is it easy? Is it good for our minds and hearts? I don't know. But I want to be able to find peace without being a snob about it. For example, when you tell some one you have found peace they look at you like you are better then them or they don't believe you.  For some people finding peace is so easy that they never look back but for others it is so hard that they have trouble in their face. What is the secret to finding peace you ask? I will let you know when I find it. I guess it could be found in a good book or in music. But finding peace means you have to be OK with letting go completely. And I think that's OK. I will do it. But until then I am still looking for it.

Question of the day: When was the last time you found peace?
Challenge of the day: Let go of your past and move forward

Arguments

Arguments are apart of any relationship. We have to be able to pick the argument in question because either way things are going to be said that shouldn't. For example, if you bring up the past. That's just it leave the past alone. Or if you bring up something that the other person did last week. Things are going to be said and you have to be able to move past those hurtful things by calming down, going into separate corners, and then coming out of time out and talking about it in a calm voice. If you are a parent make sure you close the door or have the kids go to a room and close the door. We as humans always find something to argue about. But what happens when we argue? Well, like I said things are said that can and will be hurtful. But that shouldn't have to happen. If we all took a deep breath and counted to 10 then talked about it without yelling and swearing then things would get fixed a lot quicker. I see now point on yelling and pointing the finger at the other person. Sure it's OK to tell that person how you feel about it but you have to be willing to let the other person speak their piece as well. Arguments will always be there in life but you have to be able to step up and face them head on with out harsh words being said or violence.When arguments turn into violence no one wins that. We as a whole need to be able to keep the arguments in check in our minds. That way we can think about what we want to say before they can hurt that other person.  Just a few minutes ago my boyfriend and I got into an argument and we talked about it without the yelling and swearing. We took the to hear what the other person is saying and how they feel about it. I think it's important to talk about feelings during an argument because then both people can work on it together. But that's how I feel about it. So don't like arguments bring the two of you down. Use them as a building tool in life.

Question of the day: Have you ever gotten into a bad argument before?
Challenge of the day: Talk about your feelings to the other person without getting into an argument

Father's day

Father's Day is coming up quick and we all know that it is important to buy dad something. But when did father's day become so commercial?  I remember getting my dad a tie or socks or whatever and he liked it. But this time around what do I get my dad that isn't cheese. Well I could get him a superman action figure. Or batman. I don't know. I have found that as the years go on Father's day has kind of lost all meaning. I mean sure the theme is still there but what does Father's Day mean to people know? Is it supposed to be special or not? Do you feel obligated to get a card or not? As Father's day gets closer I still haven't gotten my dad anything. Does Father's day ever get old for some people? I don't know. But there are a lot of things that I don't know.

Question of the day: What does Father's Day mean to you?

Challenge of the day: Write a letter to your dad telling him how you feel

Dating

Dating can be rough and for some of us we get it right way to late. Dating is a game and we all play the dating game. For some people they win and for others they loose. So what do you do when we lose? We keep looking until we find the right one for us. Like my mom always told me. "Men are like shoes the next one could be your favorite until a new pair catches your eye." And I never really got it until now, when I met my current boyfriend. He is new to the dating game and now he is done because he met the one which is me. I found the one when he and I first met in school. But when you have been in the dating game for a long time it can be a very hard habit to break. You know you want out of the game because you have met the one but you some how keep getting pulled back in. I know how that feels. I feel like that every time my ex talks to me. But I always come out by being happy. Because I talk to my boyfriend about it and he is trying to help me out. So find a man who is willing to be there for you know matter what. But a man who is willing to stick it out until the end is very rare in this dating game. You have to look and you have to keep your head held high and your walls up until he or she shows up to save you. You never know when that right person will show up in your life after you stop playing the dating game. Ever wonder who made up the rules to this game we all love to play? Do they really need to be in play so to speak? Should we even make up our own rules? I often wonder why we have rules to this love life. When do the rules change? Do they ever change at all?

Question of the day? Does the dating game ever change at all?

Challenge of the day? Write down rules to live by and use them for good.

National Parks and Monuments

May I just say that visiting a National Park and Monuments are really cool and fun at the same time. For the past three days maybe two I have seen the Grand Canyon and a few others. And I have learned a lot about them. One of them was how we need to take care of the land around us. And one of the ways to do that is by picking up trash that doesn't belong on the ground. We should also reuse, reduce, and recycle. We should never take our planet for granted in any way. We have to keep our National Parks and Monuments clean and open so our future generations can see them and learn from them. So all I can say is go see our National Parks and Monuments.

Fitting in

We have all been at that point were we find out how we fit in. We never seem to realize that fitting in isn't cool anymore. I mean sure it was back in High School but now it seems like a lot more stress in our lives that we don't need.  No matter where you go you always want to fit in. But at the end of the day we see that no matter how hard we try we never can. We always feel out of place. I feel that way right now with the job I'm at. And my mom always tells me if you don't like it then try to make it work for you. I have no come to realize that I need to take that step and tell myself that there is something else out there for me to do. I can do whatever I put my mind to and if that means leaving a place that has to much going on for my mind to take in then so be it. I don't want to be unhappy with my work I want to be happy. Work stress is never good for anyone. And we all try to make it work for us but that never seems to work sometimes. I'm even trying to ignore the other co-worker that gets on my nerves. And yes I should let it go in one ear and out the other but that's not easy. You have the power to go to your boss and tell your boss how you feel without making it seem like your the crazy one. It always seems like our best isn't good enough. We are told day in and day out to just take a deep breath and focus. We've tried that now what? I say we take a vacation and tell our minds cool down for a little bit and then try again. We can be nice for so long before we explode. So how do we fit in? By not caring about how the other co-workers think. We need to show people that we as individuals can think for ourselves and that we can fit in without being rude or stuck up. So here is a rule to live by.

1) ALWAYS BE YOURSELF.

A good rule to live by.

Challenge of the day: 1) Comment back about what you think and 2) Try not to fit in
Question of the day: What does fitting in mean to you?

Thoughts

Thoughts are something that come and go in a person's mind each and every day and night. We sometimes get so consumed by these thoughts that we don't realize how much we have missed in the world. We rarely take time to stop and let go of these thoughts that keep our minds running at full speed. When we lose our train of thought we always seem to go back where we left off the last time. Thoughts can be helpful or hurtful it just depends on the thought that you have. We have to make sure that some thoughts are kept to yourself because you never know who might hear what you have to say. Choose your words carefully. Express your thoughts through something good like in a poem that way know one will know what you are trying to say. Each day some one either has a good thought or a bad one. I have found that when thoughts are used for good then good things will and can happen to you. But when you think bad thoughts bad things happen. So go with the good thoughts that will help you in the long run. Never let your thoughts decided how you should find work or some one to spend your life with.

Challenge of the day: Write down all the good thoughts and keep them and then write down the bad thoughts and burn them.

Question of the day: Can thoughts be harmful to your life?