History

Every one has a history and we sometimes share it with others who ask. But sometimes our history has a way of coming back and haunting us for the worse. Sure there are ways of making sure that doesn't happen but we know we can't stop it. Even countries have a history that we don't like to hear about but we read them instead. I recently got done with a book called A concise history of Brazil. And in the book they talked about how Brazil got started and how their government ran. Sure their government wasn't perfect but neither is ours here in the USA. People have a way of judging people's history without getting to know all of the facts first. I think if we all took the time to learn more about history and then judged we might be able to find that we can get along. It isn't hard to find out how your own history can affect your day to day life. You have to be able to mange it without going nuts in the processes. Right now my Grandmother is in the process of writing down her own history. She is doing this because I have asked her to share her stories and explain more about herself. And yes this is taking a long time but for me it will be worth it because I can read about her through her memories. History is what you make it and how you live it. Don't let it hurt you either.

Question of the day: How has your own personal history come back to haunt you?

Challenge of the day: Make history by doing something that makes a difference in the world.

Pets

I think having a pet as an only child has taught me to be more happy. When you have a pet you find that having some one to run to the door every day is nice. Plus did you know that having a pet helps lower stress? I have a cat named Salem and he has been such a joy in my family. He plays with us and he even lays on the arm rest of a chair next to me or my grandmother and "helps" us read. Sure he gets loud but that's only because he wants his food right then and there. He will even wait for my grandmother to change his box before he uses it again. He is the type of pet that is good for my family because when my mom comes home from work he purrs nice and soft for her that way all the stress she has just goes away. And our cat likes to have his armpits rubbed. Yes you read that correctly. He will roll on his back and lift his front legs in the air over his head and waits for you to rub his armpits. Cute I know. Anyway back to the subject at hand. When you have a pet you can talk to them about your day without them judging you or talking back. They are there to love you. I don't get way people hurt their pets. What did they do to deserve it? They did nothing! They are here to love us and play with us. Pets are not here to get hurt. I think people who do that don't deserve to have a cute dog or cat or any other pet. Be kind to your pet they only want you to be happy after a long day of work.

Question of the day: What kind of pet do you have? And if you wanted one what would you get?

Challenge of the day: Donate to your local pet shelter every time some one asks.

Health

When your health is on the line you should be able to make it right. For example, by eating right or by exercising. I have been trying to eat right but when you walk by doughnuts it's kind of hard not to want one. I think stress can be good for your health but at the same time you have to be careful with how you handle that stress. When you get to stressed out you can feel bad. I have found that you get anxiety. When you meditate you can let go of some of that stress but you have to learn how to handle it the right way. Drinking and smoking doesn't help because it's bad for you. Eating to much isn't good for you. You have to be able to find a happy medium. How do you ask? Well first, make a list of all things that are negative in your life. Then take another piece of paper and write all things that are positive. Now I want you to throw out the paper that has all the negative thoughts on it. Next I want you to put that list of positive things some where, where you can see it in the morning, afternoon, and evening. Keep looking at that list and see that your health is getting a little bit better. I hope you have great health all year long and into the next year. Peace be with you.

Question of the day: How have you changed your health?
Challenge of the day: Comment back on how health is both bad and good

Finding peace

Finding peace within one's life is not an easy task to accomplish. You have to be able to look at yourself and see what you want to change for the better. For me it's telling a guy that I am happily dating someone and no you can't have my number. Or telling a guy friend no you can't come over. I think finding peace with your past is also important because there are people who still hold on to it. And I am one of them. My boyfriend has told me to let it go and live for now. Well that theory is easy to do if you know how. I have tried to let go and not look back but it's not easy. Are there people out there with the same problem as me? I'm sure there is. But when do we say enough is enough? When do we say I will never look back again? Is it easy? Is it good for our minds and hearts? I don't know. But I want to be able to find peace without being a snob about it. For example, when you tell some one you have found peace they look at you like you are better then them or they don't believe you.  For some people finding peace is so easy that they never look back but for others it is so hard that they have trouble in their face. What is the secret to finding peace you ask? I will let you know when I find it. I guess it could be found in a good book or in music. But finding peace means you have to be OK with letting go completely. And I think that's OK. I will do it. But until then I am still looking for it.

Question of the day: When was the last time you found peace?
Challenge of the day: Let go of your past and move forward

Arguments

Arguments are apart of any relationship. We have to be able to pick the argument in question because either way things are going to be said that shouldn't. For example, if you bring up the past. That's just it leave the past alone. Or if you bring up something that the other person did last week. Things are going to be said and you have to be able to move past those hurtful things by calming down, going into separate corners, and then coming out of time out and talking about it in a calm voice. If you are a parent make sure you close the door or have the kids go to a room and close the door. We as humans always find something to argue about. But what happens when we argue? Well, like I said things are said that can and will be hurtful. But that shouldn't have to happen. If we all took a deep breath and counted to 10 then talked about it without yelling and swearing then things would get fixed a lot quicker. I see now point on yelling and pointing the finger at the other person. Sure it's OK to tell that person how you feel about it but you have to be willing to let the other person speak their piece as well. Arguments will always be there in life but you have to be able to step up and face them head on with out harsh words being said or violence.When arguments turn into violence no one wins that. We as a whole need to be able to keep the arguments in check in our minds. That way we can think about what we want to say before they can hurt that other person.  Just a few minutes ago my boyfriend and I got into an argument and we talked about it without the yelling and swearing. We took the to hear what the other person is saying and how they feel about it. I think it's important to talk about feelings during an argument because then both people can work on it together. But that's how I feel about it. So don't like arguments bring the two of you down. Use them as a building tool in life.

Question of the day: Have you ever gotten into a bad argument before?
Challenge of the day: Talk about your feelings to the other person without getting into an argument

Father's day

Father's Day is coming up quick and we all know that it is important to buy dad something. But when did father's day become so commercial?  I remember getting my dad a tie or socks or whatever and he liked it. But this time around what do I get my dad that isn't cheese. Well I could get him a superman action figure. Or batman. I don't know. I have found that as the years go on Father's day has kind of lost all meaning. I mean sure the theme is still there but what does Father's Day mean to people know? Is it supposed to be special or not? Do you feel obligated to get a card or not? As Father's day gets closer I still haven't gotten my dad anything. Does Father's day ever get old for some people? I don't know. But there are a lot of things that I don't know.

Question of the day: What does Father's Day mean to you?

Challenge of the day: Write a letter to your dad telling him how you feel

Dating

Dating can be rough and for some of us we get it right way to late. Dating is a game and we all play the dating game. For some people they win and for others they loose. So what do you do when we lose? We keep looking until we find the right one for us. Like my mom always told me. "Men are like shoes the next one could be your favorite until a new pair catches your eye." And I never really got it until now, when I met my current boyfriend. He is new to the dating game and now he is done because he met the one which is me. I found the one when he and I first met in school. But when you have been in the dating game for a long time it can be a very hard habit to break. You know you want out of the game because you have met the one but you some how keep getting pulled back in. I know how that feels. I feel like that every time my ex talks to me. But I always come out by being happy. Because I talk to my boyfriend about it and he is trying to help me out. So find a man who is willing to be there for you know matter what. But a man who is willing to stick it out until the end is very rare in this dating game. You have to look and you have to keep your head held high and your walls up until he or she shows up to save you. You never know when that right person will show up in your life after you stop playing the dating game. Ever wonder who made up the rules to this game we all love to play? Do they really need to be in play so to speak? Should we even make up our own rules? I often wonder why we have rules to this love life. When do the rules change? Do they ever change at all?

Question of the day? Does the dating game ever change at all?

Challenge of the day? Write down rules to live by and use them for good.