Work

Work can be a big pain. We all have the person we work with that gets on our nerves. Well I work with someone just like that. Ever since I started working at the airport near my house she has been on my case over the dumbest thing. I have told my boss about it and he has talked to her. Well that works up to a certain point. We all know how that is. Have you ever thought about walking up to that person and yelling at them? I have plenty of times. I even thought of throwing a pink highlighter at her forehead. But I am keeping my cool because she isn't worth it. And that includes my time. I know I am doing my job the right way. All I can say is never let that person see you stressed. I always to my boyfriend about my day because then I feel better about it. I'm sure I'm not the only one who has had to talk to some one about their day. It happens all the time. Like my mom says kill them with kindness or let it roll of your shoulders. I'm doing the second one or at least trying to do the second one. That's why when I get home from work I go on YouTube and listen to meditation music to feel better. And it does work. Then I take a nice warm shower. And I feel better. I think that there are some nice co-workers out there. You just have to be nice to them. Which is what I do. I love my job. And that's good because I think that doing what you love shouldn't make you chose between what you love and that person making you stressed. When that happens I take a deep breath and say OK she isn't going to get the best of me. Not now or ever. I will be the best worker I can be and I wish that for every one who reads this. All I can say is good luck at work and try to have a good day.

Challenge of the day: Write a letter to your co-worker and then burn it
Question of the day: Have you ever had a rude co-worker?

Dating

Dating can be something easy to do or hard to do. It just depends on how you look at dating. I think that the whole point of dating is to find that special someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with. Dating is the  modern day courtship. If you do it the right way then that person will think you are special. If you do it the right way then your screwed. Dates are supposed to be fun not boring. For example. My boyfriend and I went on a double date with our friends. Fun right? Well the double date just happened to fall on Valentine's Day which was also our 2 month anniversary. Well the girls boyfriend let out this loud burp and guess what restaurant we went to? We went to Olive Garden. Well he let out a loud burp and the people around us stopped and started at us. My boyfriend and I covered our faces with our menus. We were so glad that night was over. My main rule for dating is never let out a loud burp on a date because that just ruins it. Dating shouldn't be gross for that person you are on a date with. I also think that both people should decided what to do on a date. My boyfriend and I talk about what we are going to do on a date. Sometimes we are getting food and bringing it home to watch a movie. Or we will go for a walk in the park. The date is what you make it. Never make it a night to forget always make it a night to remember. I try to have fun on a date when I'm not feeling well. And when I go out on a date I try to look good because I don't want to look like I just got out of bed. So dating is important when it comes to who you are as a person. Go on dates that will make the two of you to have fun and not feel like your bored after being there for five seconds. I like to go on dates with my boyfriend and he feels the same way. We make the dates into something fun and we always talk about it weeks before. That way we aren't sitting in the car asking each other well what do you want to do tonight. Never do that. Talk about it first. Have fun on your date.

Challenge of the day: With your special someone and decided to do something fun then write about it
Question of the day: What was your worst date ever? And what happened?

Family

Like the saying goes you can pick your friends but not your family and that is so true. I find that family can sometimes be helpful but at the same time they can be a pain. It can be helpful to have family around when you are going through some tough times in your life. I have also learned that loyalty needs to be a wall in the family unit. But I am sad to say that I don't see that on my mom's side of the family. I see it some times on my dad's but I see it more on my boyfriends side of the family. I want to teach my children when I have them one day that loyalty should mean something to them. I think every family should teach that to their kids but at the same time they need also need to teach their kids to tell the truth. I watch a TV show at 3 when I get the chance and I have learned that not all parents have values. If I was a parent I would teach my kids to stand up for their values and beliefs. I also think that parents should teach their kids to be a wear of their surroundings and the people around them. I try to be careful about talking about my family. Cousins are part of the family  and they need to be able to come together and help out and fight together when it comes down to it. You never know when something bad might happen. I think family is important and it should be. Because like my grandmother says family is all you have in this world. And it can be. I love my family to a certain extent. My boyfriends family is great I think they are great people I always have fun with them. Family is and can be all we have some times in this world.

Challenge of the day: Has there been a time were loyalty came into question?
Question of the day: What does loyalty mean to you?

Feelings

Feelings are something that people can and cannot control. I have known people who start to become numb because of their feelings toward something or someone. I sometimes wish that I could become numb and stay that way but I know if I do my boyfriend won't like it. I think that if I write in my diary I will feel better and sometimes that's true but other times I need to just write a letter and burn it. I like to talk to my boyfriend about things that bother me and after I do that I feel better about whatever it is that's bothering me in my life. I think that every one needs to keep a journal just let out some steam or listen to some relaxation music. I could try yoga but that would hurt. Anyway back to the topic at hand. There are a lot of ways to control your feelings. Like I said write in a journal everyday. You could also try writing a letter and burn it. Also try talking to your family and see what they have to say about your day. I find that feelings should be expressed through art and in writing.  So to end this blog every one should express themselves in a good way.

Challenge of the day: Write in a journal and express your feelings in a good way. Also try art as well.

Question of the day: Do you think it's possible to block feelings out?

Life

Life is a word that never seems to make any scene to us as human beings. We know it surrounds us everyday and we know it can get taken away or start brand new. Every one says their life is hard and I'm sure it is but what about those who live on the streets? Their life is really hard. We always seem to forget that as humans we never look out for those in need. We always look out for ourselves. Like my grandparents say the rich keep getting richer and poor keep getting poorer. In a way this is true because no matter what the middle class does we end up getting the fuzzy end of the lollipop. I think life is funny like that. But we must never take life for grated because you never know when your time is up. I think everyone should stop and smell the roses everyday at least then we can work together to make life on earth some what easier. Every one has a bucket list. But if you don't "cross" off what is on your bucket list you will look back and say to yourself why didn't I do that when I was younger. My boyfriend and I are in our 20's and we are trying to live healthy lives. I can also say that I have gone camping. I can cross going to New Zealand and Australia off my bucket list. I can also cross off going over seas and helping in a medical/mission trip. There are a lot of things I want to do before  my time is up. And I'm sure every one feels the same way. You have to live your life the way you want it because no one else will cross things off your bucket list for you. That is up to you. When I have three days off of work I spend those days with my boyfriend because he gives me a scene of peace. Don't take your loved one for granted either because life is to short for that. So who knows what life as in store for us these days. All we can do is try to live happy lives that mean something to us.

Challenge of the day: Make a bucket list and cross things off of it. Also take a day off or a weekend off and do some of those things on your bucket list.
Question of the day: If you could do one thing for a day what would it be and why?

Fathers

Fathers can be easy to deal with but then there are those times where you just want to scream and kick them where it hurts. Well for me that is all the time with my dad. You see he and my mom are divorced so it can be very hard for  me. Anyway today my dad got my phone bill and it was very high so he called  me. Well I was busy talking to my mom and I told her to tell him that I was sleeping so she did. Well I called him back so he wouldn't have to bother me for the rest of the night. Well he got mad at me because of my phone bill so now I have to pay him $160.00. Well I was upset because he got mad at me. OK I'm sorry that I wanted to make sure that my house was still standing and that the  mail was brought it and that I wanted to make sure that my cat is OK. I was on a cruise and half the time I couldn't get service anyway. I wish I could just get my own phone. But I can't wait for my boyfriend and I to get our own plan. But sadly I don't know if that will ever happen. It might. But back to the subject. My boyfriends dad is really cool I can learn a lot from him. My neighbor is like my dad and that's only because I have known him for a long time. I think there are some cool dads out there that take the time to help and get to know their kids and that's important. It takes a dad to walk into Disney with his daughter and get sprinkled with pixie dust just for her. I wish I had a dad that never got mad at me for called me hurtful names. But that's my dad. Sure he has his moments where he is cool but i just want to hit him. I'm sure everyone has a dad who is a pain in the rear but isn't that what a dad does? I guess but I wish he would stop being a pain to me. So thanks dad for being you. Not.

Challenge of the day: Write a letter to your dad and tell him how you feel then burn it.
Question of the day: Do you think dads could be cool?

Fashion

Fashion is a double edged sword because on one hand the magazines are telling you how you should look, act, think, and speak but on the other hand you have to be comfortable with who you are as a person. For me when I go into a mall I have to go to one store that will have clothes in my size because I wear an XL and the other stores sometimes don't carry an XL and it's because of this I feel bad about the way I look. So I go to the store I know will have clothes in my size and I can look good is Kohl's. I want to look good just like the next woman but at the same time you shouldn't have to give up your happiness just to feel bad about yourself. And these days they have low-riders for girls who are four years old! Can you believe that? If I had a daughter she would wear shorts, long skirts, t-shirts, and sweatshirts just like me. When I look at young girls today I think how they should dress age appropriate because you don't know who will be looking at her in a sick way. I think parents should explain this to their daughters because no one wants to see what's under that shirt.  COVER UP GIRLS!!!!!! No 10 year old should be wearing high heels on a date. And no 11 year old should be wearing a deep v-neck shirt to school or going out with family. I hate when the fashion industry tells these young girls who they should look. I am happy with the way I am. Sure I sometimes hate have belly fat but that's what I get for drinking to much sweet tea when I go out to dinner or lunch. And yes I sometimes wish I had a flat stomach but my boyfriend loves me for the way I am and not how I look. I always tell myself that I look good today and if I keep doing that then I will believe it. And so should young girls. I would love to sit every young girl down and talk to her about looks and fashion. And if I could I will tell them be happy with the skin your in because no one else will treat it like a temple but you and I will show them photos of how skinny and unhealthy models can look like. So is fashion worth it? Maybe.

Challenge of the day: Every day when you wake up give yourself a complement.   
Question of the day: How will you educate young girls about being healthy and being smart about it?

Children

Children are a wonderful thing but at the same time they can be a pain but after today they are a blessing. I am sending out a heartfelt sorry to the parents who lost their kids today. I may not be a parent but I do babysit two kids one of them is 12 and the other is 5 years old. I would be very upset if something bad happened to them. I think every parent today feels the same way. We need to stop giving guns out like candy. It isn't fair to the parents who lost their kids today. I would hope that the president made it illegal to giving guns to those who aren't all there. Kids shouldn't have to die in a senseless death like today and years before. My boyfriend and I have both thought about our kids that we will have in the near future. We both hate having our kids come into this world full of hate and anger. We both realize that we will have to teach our kids the differences between right and wrong plus good and evil. Parents today need to take a stand against guns, drugs, whatever else we can think of. I can't imagine what is must be like to lose a child and I don't think I want to. But as a babysitter I would move heaven and earth to find and help those two kids I babysit. And I would do the same for my kids. Again I say to the parents who lost their kids at that school I am so sorry for your lose. And to the kids who had to watch this happen your parents are there to help and I hope you some how forget all of this.

To end this post I ask that everyone pray for the families and the kids.

Vacations

Vacations are something that I think every one should take just to get away from the real world. I think vacations are the greatest things ever because you can go somewhere and know that your phone might not work at all. And even if it does you  have the option to answer or not. I sometimes answer when I feel like it. But that is only because my boyfriend is keeping an eye on the house and cat. I also think that if everyone took a vacation people who be more nice to others. I like to read travel magazines because I think it would be wonderful to visit different places over the world. When I read an article my mind goes to that place that I'm reading about and I can see, hear, and smell what the author is writing about in that magazine. One of my dreams is to write for a travel magazine which will never happen. So when I go on my next vacation  I will blog about my vacation. I have come to realize that writing about your life experiences helps you cope with every day life. And that's when a vacation comes to the rescue. I have found that when I take a vacation it helps me clear my head and it helps me realize that I am the same person no matter what. I think it helps when you go AWOL and you come back a different person because you have cut yourself off from the real world and you realize that your mini vacation is just what you needed all along. I feel like the president should on on a vacation and turn his phone off. I think this government should go on vacation. But sadly they can't because they have important things to worry about in this country. My boyfriend and I are even planning a vacation for just the two of us. Will it happen? It might but who knows. Only time will tell. So to every one out there plan a vacation to where ever you want to go and just go.

Challenge of the day: Plan a get away for you and your family or for you and your loved one. And write about it
Question of the day: If you could go to any place where would you go?

Boyfriends

Boyfriends can be a pain in a rear. I should know. My boyfriend and I almost broke up last night because we got into a fight over his speakers that cost over 200 dollars. Well needless to say during this argument I hung up on him over Skype. Which was a good thing because I need to cool down before there was cussing at each other. So I called him back and that's when I told him that I want to break up with him and I had to say it twice because he didn't hear me the first time. For he and I we act like a married couple already because we have known each other for 5 years and we have been dating for 10 soon to be 11 months. So yeah. But I told him that the only way I would stay was if he stepped up and be a man. And I kept telling him how I felt and that if he didn't like it well then tough. I had enough with the stress from my life and he wasn't making it any easier for me. Like my mom says boyfriends are like Dixie cups each one is different then the next. Well we didn't break up because I told him how I felt and he agreed to change for me after I kept telling him to do so.  Do I believe that he will change for me? I don't know if he will. I hope he does because I told him that when we have children his behavior will not be acceptable. And I told him that when we fight he has to sleep on the couch. He and I are both stubborn which is never good but he and I can work it out. So back to the topic at hand. Boyfriends. Who knew some of them can be a good guy? I was watching this show today and these guys were complete jerks to their girls. I wanted to go through the TV and hit them myself. I never thought that there were still good guys out there but there are we as women have to look for them. Sure we maybe pick from the bottom of the barrel but once we reach the top there maybe that one guy we have dreamed about ready to help you through anything. I am grateful to my  boyfriend everyday for taking the time and try to be that man I need from him. Then there are some boyfriends who need to take a chill pill. And trust me I've been there to. I know every woman has. I think guys need to be able to talk about their feelings more without the yelling, screaming, and the other crap that they do. So to the boyfriends out there be nice to your girl and help her out when she needs it.

Challenge of the day: Boyfriends for 3 months I want you to do something nice for your girl without complaining about it.
Question of the day: Do boyfriends ever want to change for the better?

Friendships

These are things that can cause a lot of hurt and pain towards some one or every one. It is easy to get comfortable with people and talk about things in life that might be hurting you but what some people don't realize is that there are people who can use that against you in life. I have found that friends can be a pain in the you know what and that is sometimes true because you try turning to them for help when you need it the most and they can either blow you off or come to your aide. I have also found that friends have a need to talk about each other behind each others backs. Now I will confess I have done this before. Am I proud of it yes and no. Yes because I felt better about it and no because the other person would sometimes find out about it. I hardly talk to my friends for the simple fact that they have drama that comes with them. It is never easy trying to give advice to friends who you know might not take it and follow it through. I have given and received advice and I would either follow it or not that was up to me like it was up to them. Like I said before and I will say it again never ever put personal stuff on Facebook or have a fight over Facebook because that leads to nothing but trouble for you and the other party involved. And if you have something to say about your friends write in a journal and not on Facebook because that is never a good thing which is why I don't have a Facebook account and neither does my boyfriend. Also never start a fight between a friend because you never know what dirt they have on you to begin with. This is why I try not to talk about my life to my friends because you never know what could happen.

Challenge of the day: Write a letter to your friends telling them how you feel and then burn it
Question of the day: Is it good to keep secrets from your friends?

Books

Books are something that I enjoy very  much. I find that when I read a book my mind gets into the story so much that I can see what the author has written on the pages. I can see what the author is kind of seeing. I love reading historical romances because I can just see the gowns and what the other characters are wearing and doing. I don't like the nook or kindle that is out because i like the smell and feel of a real book. The reason why i like the feel and smell book is because you don't have to re-charge a book and you still get to buy a new one at the same price if you bought it online. Plus you can take your used books to the library or a book bank. With a kindle or a nook you have to keep charging it when the battery dies and that's no fun. Sure you can see better with a nook or a kindle but a book is always better and that's my opinion. Sure there are people who will either agree or disagree with me but either way if you are a reader like me then there is no way you can't get sucked into a book. My grandmother and I have this joke that we need to join a support group because we read so much and we have a lot of books in our house. My mom isn't a big reader like my grandpa, grandma, me, or my aunt. When my mom, grandpa, grandma, and I go to Alaska her and I bring a list of books that we will like and at each book store we buy them and write them on our index cards that we keep. Yes we have a list and index cards. You see my grandmother used to work in a school library. So as you can see she likes to make sure we have a list in alphabetical order and the same goes for the index cards. I think it is helpful to have a book list because then you know what books you have. I actually went online one day just to see if they had a support group for book readers. But sadly they didn't or I didn't look hard enough. So fellow readers I say we save the libraries. We still need them. And when you go to a library they have a large selection of books that you can check out without having to pay for the book. At my local library they have a book store and some of the books cost 50 cents or 25 cents or even a 1$. Plus they have a book sale that is really cool. So all I can say about books is that they are great and they take you out of the real world into a world that is far away.

Challenge of the day: Think of a book that is your favorite and write why it's your favorite.
Question of the day: What is your favorite genera of book and why?

Love

A word that means the same in any language. I have found over the years of being alive for 23 years that love is something that can be easily broken by some one who doesn't love you back, by cheating, or being cheated on. It is amazing to me how two people can look at each other one minute and say those three little words and then the next they are going their separate ways. I always thought that wedding vows were never supposed to be broken but I was wrong. You have this idea of what your love life is supposed to be and in the end either you or the other person gets hurt. But sometimes it turns out to be the both of you getting hurt in the end. I have seen love poems all over the internet these days that it makes me stop and think about my own love life. Now don't get me wrong being loved is a good thing but at the same time it can some how hurt you. I have learned something through my own dating life. I learned that each guy is different. I always thought that, that guy is the one or the next one. Each one was always "the one" but that was never the case. I met a guy five years ago when we both went to the same technical school. I was dating another guy at the time and we never talked one on one. My boyfriend at that time never really understood what I wanted out of life. That and his mother never liked me. Well this guy and I started talking one day when I got mad. And from then on he and I just started talking like we knew each other forever. Well I am pleased to say that same guy is now my new boyfriend and we have been dating for 10 soon to be 11 months. Yes he and I have had problems but some how he and I can talk about it. Sure we went to other people for advice but at the same time we needed to be able to talk about it one on one. As a running joke between he and I he calls me the couple's therapist. Meaning that my friends come to me and talk to me about their love lives and how I can help them make it better for them. It isn't easy trying to help other people when you are trying to make your own relationship work. So I have told my friends to make a list of rules and follow them. Then make a contract and have him sign it and then you sign it. Also it helps if you don't go on a Facebook and post your fight on there. So yeah I have found that love can be hard to manage if you do it the correct way.  So to end this post this is what I have to say. STAY OFF OF FACEBOOK AND DON'T POST FIGHTS!!!!

Challenge of the day: As a couple I want the two of you to make a list of rules and a contract and follow them for a year.
Question of the day: What does love mean to you?

Ideas

Ideas can come from anywhere at any time and from any one. It is up to you to make it work for your plan. Not every one can come up with something on the spot but it is helpful if you take a deep breath and breath. I love the idea of how people like you and I can look at something and say how can I use that in every day life. The fact that we as humans can some how change the world is a good idea. It can happen but we have to make it happen. So here is my idea. My idea is that we start by taking our old clothes and giving them to those in need. The same thing goes for shoes and jewelry. Yes I know this sounds like a bad idea but think about it for a second. If you haven't worn it in years then put them in a trash bag and take it to the nearest clothing box or take it to goodwill. It is possible to change the world one step at a time. We just have to be able to help. I think that we can help those in need. If you go to the store and buy some food that's not on your list and take it to the local food bank and donate food to help them feed the homeless. And the same goes for the local animal shelter. Donate dog and cat food, blankets, bowls, toys, etc. It is possible to help out. I feel bad for the dogs and cats because they need a good home. My cat followed  my grandmother home from a walk one day and we have kept him ever since. So please help out.

Challenge of the day: For one month help out in your community and write out how you feel.
Question of the day: How will you be able to help out in your community and why?

Relationships

When it comes to relationships it takes time to make them grow but when that happens it can either be broken or it can become more. I have found in my 23 years of life that they can work if you take the time to help it grow. I have been in relationships since I was in elementary school. And I have found that the only way to make it work is to be able to help the other person. By this I mean you have to be that support system they might not have in their life. My current boyfriend and I are working together to help each other out in this department. I am the only girlfriend he has had that cared about him the way I do. Yes he has an ex but what I have heard about her is not good. I am trying to teach him so to speak that it is OK to be able to say your sorry when you are wrong about something. When we have a little fight we go into our separate corners and they we come back out and talk it out. We never go to other people unless we have to. I have also found that Facebook has become a place where these fights originate. I think it is way to use to go there and write your feelings for the whole world to see and read. If you have a problem talk it out with that other person in a more mature way. Listen and then speak afterwards. I have seen couple's get into little fights and then tell other people about it hoping that some of them join their side. I tell my friends that when they are fighting talk it out before you tell other people about it. It just hurts their friends in the end.